How to Make Winter Neutrals Interesting

Anyone else feel like winter can be so bleak sometimes? Well, I’m right there with ya. When there are neutral tones in nature, I like to add some flare to darker colors in my wardrobe. Here’s the secret: details are key.

I found this dark blouse which I’m absolutely in love with! The shape of the sleeves is so interesting and I love how they bubble. Although the blouse is darker, the shiny, luminescent quality makes the outfit far more interesting.

Next, up, the pants! Again, the maroon is a darker color, but the dyed black on the sides gives the pants shading and helps bring the blouse together. Not to mention, skinny jeans always look good with some combat boots!

Accessories matter so much! I love the snakeskin pattern of this silk scarf because it gives a pop of something lighter to go with the whole outfit.

I would choose either the scarf or earrings with this outfit, but I am IN LOVE with these star earrings! They are a huge, glittery, and fun piece to add to this outfit! They’re like icing on the cake, I would wear these everyday if I could!

Every piece of this outfit (minus the combat boots) are from Urban Found. They have some incredible pieces for the winter season and I definitely recommend checking them out!

How to Battle Negative Self-Talk

Have you ever had one of those days where you get in a funk? Regardless of what positive thing someone tells you, it goes through one ear and out the other. Last night, I was so frustrated. No matter how much someone would encourage me or tell me I was doing something right, it all felt like a lie.

I was confused at first as to why I kept thinking this way. It felt like these thoughts came out of nowhere. Why do I suddenly feel like I’m not smart enough in lectures, not talented enough in my art classes, or not pretty enough? The more I thought about it, I finally understood the source of my doubt and insecurity.

Throughout the entire day, I was consistently feeding myself negative self-talk. It started with little, meaningless things like dang I wish I had longer legs in ballet class. I looked back on my day and could pinpoint four or five other times where a negative thought about myself would cross my mind. It all built up until I finally couldn’t ignore it. In a way, I’m glad it got to a point where I couldn’t ignore it. How many times do we think something negative about ourselves and don’t even know we’re doing it? I bet I’ve done it millions of times and I couldn’t do anything about if because I didn’t recognize it for what it was.

We become easy targets for negative self-talk when we forget how God sees us. When we forget or we don’t condition ourselves to learn and remember what He says we are, we become easy pickings for the devil. Tiny, negative, reminders throughout the day are sly ways to get someone to break, and that’s exactly how satan does it. When we don’t know our value or we set aside God’s positive reminders, we have nothing to protect us. So how do we battle negative self talk? We need to remind ourselves daily, even multiple times a day of God’s thoughts.

If you find that something from your past is haunting you, this is such an important verse to remember. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.” When you have accepted Christ, He does not see you as your past failures and is not ashamed of your actions. He loves you endlessly and will never stop, even if you’ve done the worst thing known to man. You can never lose the amount of love He has for you.

If you feel unqualified, unintelligent, untalented, or far from beautiful, this verse is for you: “For we are his workmanship, created in Jesus Christ for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in Him.”- Ephesians 2:10. He made each of us specifically to do amazing, incredible, things! Just because you are made different from someone else that doesn’t mean that you are not qualified or good enough. It just means that you’re incredibly qualified in something else, your own unique and incredible path that God has laid out for you and only you!

If you don’t feel accepted by others, you need to listen to this: “But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.” – 1 Peter 2:9. You’ve been accepted into the Lord’s kingdom before you were born. You’ve always had a home, maybe before you even knew it. The judgement of others does not define your value or worth. Truthfully, other people don’t have the right to judge you. The only being that has that right is the Lord, and his judgement does not come out of bitterness, hatred, or unkindness. It comes from a place of love and the passion to do what is right. Most importantly, God’s judgement never brings others down. It builds us up and helps us create a better life for ourselves and others.

I’ve found so much worth in those three verses when I go through difficult times or life trials. I’m making it a goal of mine to keep these verses close to my heart and memorize them for when negative self-talk comes creeping in. If any of these verses spoke to you, I encourage you to memorize them as well when you go through trials. We also need to tell ourselves that whatever negative thought that pops into our head is completely false and we need to name it. The more we name our problems, the easier they will be to smash. We have to declare that negative thoughts are not from the Lord and will not help us feel better about ourselves. Then we can remind ourselves what the literal words of God say about us. When we hold to the truth of the Lord’s vision, we will always be enough and feel loved. There’s nothing that can take that away from us when we realize who the being is that created us so intricately.

As always, thanks for listening, and I hope that my story can help yours.

xo, Brynne

 

 

The Gift of Community

For my last October break of my college career I went up North for my wonderful friend’s birthday. This lovely group of ladies has been with me since the very beginning of my college career and it’s so crazy to look back from freshman year to know and see how much we’ve grown.

As my remaining chapter of college is coming to an end, something that’s been on my mind is how we grow with one another in community. Every person that I spend time with has such incredible qualities that make our group of friends a whole. Each person in the picture above is so incredibly different from one another and I feel like it truly reflects how God sees community. 1 Corinthians 12: 18-20 says “but as it is, God arranged the members in the body, each one of them, as he chose.  If all were a single member, where would the body be?  As it is, there are many parts, yet one body.” It warms my heart to see these wonderful people in my life and see the unique strengths of each person that makes our friendship grow.

Wisdom: If I didn’t have my friends by my side to guide me in times of confusion or trouble, I know I would put myself in some crazy and unfortunate situations. Those wise friends understand how you’re feeling and push you to make the best decision and truly listen to where you’re at.

Honesty: This is the friend who always tells you how it is. They’re an open book about who they are and they’re not afraid to speak their mind. Even when it’s hard to be real about how you’re feeling, you can always count on this person to cut the tension and ask the tough questions.

Hospitality: I always feel loved and cared for by the people that are constantly serving others. They use their actions to bless the ones they love and find joy in doing so. They never complain about doing it because they love to look out for others in a behind-the-scenes kind of way.

Quality Time: No matter how busy they are, this friend is the one that never turns their back on you to talk. They are always willing to be with you and listen when you need it. They are incredibly loyal and will never let you down.

This is only the beginning in listing how many amazing gifts that each of these women possess. I’m so thankful that all of us are incredibly different, yet come together and create a group of people that looks out for one another in different ways. How boring would we all be if all of our friends were exactly like the next?

College has taught me a lot of things, but my friends have taught me more. I’m so thankful for the people in my lives who have been on this journey with me from Freshman to Senior year.

 

Being Happy With What You Have

We live in a generation that is always wanting more. We want the best clothes, the nicest car, the biggest house, and the most income. We look at what others have and wonder why we can’t have it ourselves. Commercials tell us our lives won’t be better unless we have the next best thing to make our lives easier. We are constantly filling our minds and our houses with having more because that’s what we’ve been told to do. But once we finally knock everything we wanted off our bucket lists, we still feel empty. So what are we missing?

Imagine this: we live in a world where we are content with what we already have. What would this look like? We would appreciate the little things that usually seem meaningless. We could take that ripped up pair of jeans and make them into a cool, refurbished pair of pants. Instead of longing for that incredible vacation that we can’t afford we spend time with our grandparents and mentors who just want time to talk to us. The money you were going to use for a housing upgrade you decided to put away to donate to your favorite charity. This all sounds wonderful, but how do we get there?

I’m asking this question because this is a constant struggle for me as well. For someone who loves fashion, I always want the next best clothing piece. I also find myself longing for an incredible vacation with some gal pals but realize that my college income is not enough for me to travel overseas just yet. I’m still trying to figure out the struggle of being happy and wanting something more. Here are some things I’ve been thinking about to be incredibly content with the average in my life.

Be creative with what you have. It’s very easy to get bored in your day to day life. When you’re tempted to spend money just to fill a “high” of something new or different, come back to things you already own. Wear something that’s been in the bottom of your closet for a couple months. Pull out that book you loved reading years ago and revisit some old memories. You’d be surprised how much enjoyment you’ll get from going down memory lane.

Rekindle old/deep friendships: We all have those people in our lives who we’ve known since childhood or mentors that have impacted our lives. As we all enter new areas in our lives, those relationships can fade and dissipate with time. Try calling or texting someone that you haven’t talked to in awhile. Go out to coffee with someone who you used to love hanging out with. Those people can turn your day around and remind you of who you are.

Take a break from social media: Social media can be a wonderful place to share, inspire, and create, but it can also leave you with a deep sense of dissatisfaction. It leaves us wondering what our lives would be like if we had what someone else had. And if your lives don’t seem to “measure up,” we have to constantly upgrade our own lives and never feel complete. Try taking half a day, full day, or even a couple days off of social media. See if your lack of scrolling fulfills your “lack” of something in your life.

As I was saying before, in no means have I “figured it all out.” I’m still struggling to take myself out of being dissatisfied and appreciating what’s in front of me. I hope that what I think about and struggle with daily can inspire you to look at your life with a little more fulfillment.

As always, thanks for reading and I hope you have an incredible, fulfilled day!

xo, Brynne